From Me to We Kind of Love

Not 'Why me?' but 'Why Not?' image by teZa

I used to think of myself as separate from others, and therefore, each relationship, each friend, each experience I had was mine, and mine alone. This went on for so long, it’s unpleasant to think how unhappy and unfulfilled I was. Happily, it was by perseverance, and believing that each lesson, no matter how painful,…

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Black Women’s Perspective on Becoming a Blended Family

Shake Your Booty With Love

  Shake Your Booty With Love by teZa Lord I love ethnic, latino, and black music of all types, including their accompanying dances of various moves and rhythms. Perhaps this is because of having lived in the Caribbean for a decade in the 70s. Calypso and reggae, salsa, and cadans are in my blood. Even…

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The Blended Family: More Than Being Related

Family of Merged Energy by teZa Lord Some of us haven’t much immediate family left. A cousin here or there. A distant sibling who rarely connects on a deep level, everyone keeping things “copasetic,” trying to ignore the obvious, crushingly heavy elephant in the living room. No one wants a bad feeling to rear up…

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Our World Is One Big Blended Family

Blended Family

Blended Family by teZa Lord As we march into this second year of living with the Covid-19 pandemic, I’m struck even more strongly at the truth of humankind’s being one gigantic family, a so-called Blended Family. What, exactly, do I mean by calling the human population of Earth, at this particular time in our evolution,…

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Our Blendedness Is Saving Us

Heal Our World by teZa Lord

Heal Our World by teZa Lord Here it is. We’ve witnessed the inauguration of Joe Biden and Kamala Harris’ administration. We’re in the midst of the long-awaited dissemination of the Covid-19 vaccination (I got mine recently, hooray!). And yes, for many of us, instead of celebrating beyond measure, we’re forced to keep our feelings of…

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How a Lousy Tick Bite Healed Our Blended Family

Within days after that diagnosis of Lyme given on her thirtieth birthday, she made a heartfelt, earnest amends to me. She apologized for all the shitty things she’d ever done, said, and thought about me, ever since she’d become a teenage werewolf, transformed from the angelic girl I’d fallen in love with …

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