Choosing to Accept Change

Choices by teZa Lord

Many people have a hard time accepting what is. For some, this is a struggle; for others, because they’ve been practicing it for a while, fears and sadness, disappointments and projections simply don’t stick like they do to others who don’t know being content about “all things” is a matter of practice. Being conscious of…

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From Me to We Kind of Love

Not 'Why me?' but 'Why Not?' image by teZa

I used to think of myself as separate from others, and therefore, each relationship, each friend, each experience I had was mine, and mine alone. This went on for so long, it’s unpleasant to think how unhappy and unfulfilled I was. Happily, it was by perseverance, and believing that each lesson, no matter how painful,…

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Black Women’s Perspective on Becoming a Blended Family

Shake Your Booty With Love

  Shake Your Booty With Love by teZa Lord I love ethnic, latino, and black music of all types, including their accompanying dances of various moves and rhythms. Perhaps this is because of having lived in the Caribbean for a decade in the 70s. Calypso and reggae, salsa, and cadans are in my blood. Even…

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The Blended Family: More Than Being Related

Family of Merged Energy by teZa Lord Some of us haven’t much immediate family left. A cousin here or there. A distant sibling who rarely connects on a deep level, everyone keeping things “copasetic,” trying to ignore the obvious, crushingly heavy elephant in the living room. No one wants a bad feeling to rear up…

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Our Blended Healing Is HERE

Big Heart of Compassion

Big Heart of Compassion by teZa Lord The order of the day is to mend what’s been broken. Our new President has brought this to our attention. He’s made it clear this healing is the responsibility of each and every one of us. Not just those who think they’re “right” and not just those who…

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