Choosing to Accept Change

Choices by teZa Lord

Many people have a hard time accepting what is. For some, this is a struggle; for others, because they’ve been practicing it for a while, fears and sadness, disappointments and projections simply don’t stick like they do to others who don’t know being content about “all things” is a matter of practice. Being conscious of…

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Change is the Name of Covid’s Game

Covid the Game-Changer

Many are suffering. Many lives have been lost, and countless others impacted, some minimally, some horrifically. Loved ones have been lost. Jobs are lost. Having lost in-person contact, school-age kids are sadly freaking out in record numbers. Mental health workers can’t keep up with the demand in schools for trauma training, comforting all record numbers…

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From Me to We Kind of Love

Not 'Why me?' but 'Why Not?' image by teZa

I used to think of myself as separate from others, and therefore, each relationship, each friend, each experience I had was mine, and mine alone. This went on for so long, it’s unpleasant to think how unhappy and unfulfilled I was. Happily, it was by perseverance, and believing that each lesson, no matter how painful,…

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Black Women’s Perspective on Becoming a Blended Family

Shake Your Booty With Love

  Shake Your Booty With Love by teZa Lord I love ethnic, latino, and black music of all types, including their accompanying dances of various moves and rhythms. Perhaps this is because of having lived in the Caribbean for a decade in the 70s. Calypso and reggae, salsa, and cadans are in my blood. Even…

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The Blended Family: More Than Being Related

Family of Merged Energy by teZa Lord Some of us haven’t much immediate family left. A cousin here or there. A distant sibling who rarely connects on a deep level, everyone keeping things “copasetic,” trying to ignore the obvious, crushingly heavy elephant in the living room. No one wants a bad feeling to rear up…

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Our World Is One Big Blended Family

Blended Family

Blended Family by teZa Lord As we march into this second year of living with the Covid-19 pandemic, I’m struck even more strongly at the truth of humankind’s being one gigantic family, a so-called Blended Family. What, exactly, do I mean by calling the human population of Earth, at this particular time in our evolution,…

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Happiness Is Hard Work

JOY in Many Flavors by teZa Lord

JOY in Many Flavors by teZa Lord If anyone tells you it’s easy being happy, don’t believe them for a second. Behind every happy, sunny face is a person who has true dedication to maintaining that positive state. The people we hang out with, the words we use, even the food we eat all contribute…

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Learning to See and Discover

The Mystery

  By teZa Lord, author of the new audiobook, Zen Love   An amazing article caught my eye this morning as I glanced through the For KIDs section of the New York Times, a weekly special that I peruse in hopes of finding something interesting I can share with my 9-year-old grandson. I nearly fell…

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Covid, a Tough-Love Teacher

Mother Nature Brought Us COVID

Mother Nature Brought Us Covid by teZa Lord Harsh, calling Covid anything but a scourge. Yet along with misery and deprivation it has brought light to our conflicted world. The pandemic has given us a “pause” in which to ponder. Time to assimilate “the new-normal.” Some of us resist or fall into depression. Others decide…

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